Here’s a selection of the most memorable things people had to say about being gay this year. Yes, there were haters who indelibly made asses of themselves, but there was also lot more love than ever before. From the President and First Lady, to talk show hosts, actors, singers, athletes and even Honey Boo Boo, there was no lack of participation in the national dialog about marriage equality, religious freedom, and sex. But just as we were getting amorous in our carriage, with the blinds pulled down and our tongues in each other’s mouths, there was a tap at the door.Over the past year, it seemed as though everybody had something to say about being gay. The excitement of the morning, the wine, the company, and the constant rhythmic bumping of the train had made me reckless, and I was quite prepared to risk discovery in order to get my rocks off with Bertrand… it wouldn’t take long, and would serve as an amusing hors d’oeuvre to lunch. Righty-ho.Īn excerpt from The Secret Tunnel by James Lear There’s lots of ‘oh no, that’s just so wrong’ exclamations as the two hero detectives have sex in front of a suspect to persuade him to part with information. Perhaps Monica should check out Lear’s favourite part of The Back Passage. ‘I would like to see something a bit softer.’ ‘There’s lots of spitting and slapping as they grapple to be the alpha male,’ she sighs. If Monica could find one complaint with her new habit (and it is a struggle), she says it’s too macho. With men, it’s clear that both are genuinely aroused.’ Prof Smith says this came up regularly in her research many aren’t convinced young Eastern European women’s squeals of delight in films are genuine. ‘I find it hard to detach myself emotionally from the woman and wonder if she is really enjoying it. Often one of them has to be submissive, so maybe a small part of me likes seeing a man taking what we normally do.’įemale betrayal is also a factor for Monica. My favourite scenario is a younger, pretty man being led astray by a bigger, butch guy,’ she explains. ‘I log on to my favourite websites, then take what I see and reconstruct that into my own fantasy.
She only realised recently how much she enjoyed male gay porn and now watches it regularly. Monica, 39, a designer, couldn’t agree more. They love the idea of a randy gay man seducing other men.’ It’s even more basic than that, says Lear: ‘Female readers don’t need a central female character to identify with they get off on men as men get off on women, appreciating their bodies, enjoying graphic descriptions of sex and objectifying men. ‘It’s a holiday in someone else’s experience,’ explains Smith. When it’s men-only, you can be whatever you fancy – submissive or dominant. When women are faced with a male and female romance or sex scene, they naturally associate with the female. Watching and reading gay male porn also allows women to explore unchartered territory. ‘In most cases, the actors in gay porn films are more attractive and have the athletic bodies women fancy.’ Which is where male gay porn comes in, says Prof Clarissa Smith, author of One For The Girls!, a book about women’s fascination with porn.
Although female directors such as Anna Span promise to cast attractive men in their films, mainstream porn is often full of portly stomachs and ugly faces. In most cases, hetero porn is made by men for men and as long as the leading actor is well endowed and can perform on cue, he gets the part. Of course, it’s not just about being surrounded by manhood, quality is an issue.